So apparently there’s this new Gen Z word floating around “sherking” which means lowering your standards, especially in looks, when dating. It made me pause and think back to when I was discerning marriage.
I had a short list of “requirements” for my future husband. One of them was simple (and maybe a little silly)but I wanted someone at least a head taller than me. Guess what? My husband didn’t meet that particular requirement. And yet, I never felt like I was “lowering my standards” when I chose him. Why? Because he was (and is) the best match for me. Time and again, he has proven that what matters most isn’t height, but heart. Out of the millions of men in the world, not one “head taller” could have fit me as perfectly as he does.
That’s when I realized something important: our “standards” must be rooted in God’s vision, not in the world’s checklists.
Scripture reminds us:
“Do not be mismated with unbelievers. For what partnership have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” -- 2 Corinthians 6:14
When it comes to marriage, the ultimate question isn’t “Is he tall enough?” or “Is she stylish enough?” but rather, “Will this person help me grow closer to God?” If the answer is yes, then you’re not “sherking”—you’re actually lifting your standards to the highest place possible.
Looks fade. Interests change. Life throws curveballs. But a partner who helps you keep your eyes fixed on Christ; that is priceless.
So maybe the real “sherking” isn’t about settling for someone less attractive, but about settling for someone who doesn’t lift your soul toward heaven. And trust me, when God gives you the right match, every other “requirement” fades into the background.
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